Couples: Polite Relationships is questioned??

How many of us tries to be so polite in a relationship? We try not to express too much of our anger and too much of our so not cool emotions to our partners.

Reading these words from a blog I came across made me wonder:

"And while I was angry with my partner, disappointed and appalled that the curtain of good fortune was being torn down in front of my eyes…our relationship grew. I found that I needed to complain to him, cry to him, shake my fist at him.

I realized for the first time that I had an actual relationship with God. I realized that my frustration and tears meant that I really did believe He was there. That He was not a distant clockmaker or the leader of an exclusive club. I realized he was my Father, the only one I could turn to. Simplistic as that may sound, it was a revelation for me."

Here is my two sense. It's easy to have faith when things are going well. Or at least holding status qua. But when we face the dark side of life, when we have to turn and stand nose to nose with the unpleasant, frightening, heart-breaking face of suffering and death, things lose their clarity and our believe in love shakes.

See, many of us learn not to question God and not even doubt him, but I know it is my right to question God, so when it comes to relationships, we sometimes don't dare to enter into conflict with our partner, We be afraid to spoil our love.

Today, I want you to change your way of thinking and think how a conflict can be the tool to draw us closer and closer as couples.

Conflict is the tool to vent out our emotions and disappointment. It is the emotions that we express our frustration.

Here is the key how you use conflict to your benefit.

Listen carefully to your partner during conflict, Listen and find how he or she feels. Then, take that to heart and start responding in a very kind, gentle ways.

I want you all not to avoid conflict, but to see it as an opportunity to find out what makes your partner upset and sad, and as a result take notes and start a new journey of expressing love.

I encourage you to stop with these polite relationships and have an constructive conversions about what really need to be worked on.

Don't forget: Get Angry but don't sin.