Couples: Rebirth your Love

Here is a word of advise, making good memories with your partner are very important. Did you ask me why....?

Well, lesson learned that when one of us not feeling so great and maybe hurt by the other a great sweet memory come very handy.

What a great idea to jump back on track when we remember sweet memory that we made come together.

Of course, you need to have the attitude of wanting to be in good terms with your partner and want to reconcile. What an amazing gratitude when you accompany it with a great memory of your spouse. It feels just like someone giving me back my breath. It is like reigniting your love once again.

So, here what I say, go back search in your memories to find sweet moments of your relationship and use them to restart your love once again in order to get back on track.

Couples: Break Free of False Self.

Last weekend the youth in our church got together with another 100 more from around the USA. We came together to talk seriously about how to break free. The topic was amazing, it was about breaking free from our false self in order to claim our true self which God planed for us.

He went on defining the two, false self is what the society, environment, family tend to make of us or mold us to be, and true self is what God ultimately planned for us want to mold us to be.

Dr. Awasm talked about a great thing that we should all do as couples. When conflict happens between any couple, there is a need for attention. We need to pay attention in order to find out what is the need of our spouse. When someone seems angry our mad of the other there is two responsibilities we need to take care of:

First:the person who did wrong needs not to be so taken by how much the other person is angry or mad, as much as paying attention to respond to the need of restoring the hurt feelings.

Second: The person who is hurt, needs to pay attention to the person who hurt him/her to find out why he or she did that? Was there any reasons for what he or she did?

He encouraged us to always have those secret conversions with our selves to examine ourselves before we run to claim we are right and the others are wrong.

It is definitely a call of being selfless. A call to two people to become more like one. A marriage that seeks the happiness of the other before self and gives the benefit of the doubt to others before making a judgement.

My lesson is not to rush quickly and claim that I am hurt from something, and listen and question my self and circumstance first.

Couples: Love Vs. Standard?!

How many times you were right in a conflict with your spouse or your partner?
How many times you had the right to stay angry and upset for his or her wrong doing?

See, many times we act as if we all righteous and standard holders of law. We forgot sometimes that our relationships of love are far more important than holding in the wrong person in the corner.
We tend to hold our standard to a higher level than our love. Instead of humbling ourselves in order to restore the relationship, we tend to stand higher looking down on our partners whom have sinned against us. We forget many times that our partners is in need of our love much more than our condemnation. We tend to disapprove their behavior and enlarge an attack on them or for the most part we act like the victims who have all rights to hold.

Have you questioned yourselves, what Jesus did in the same situation?

Did he stood up high pointing the fingers to our wrong doing? Instead, he thought that his relationship with us is far more important that just sitting and watching us living in our wrong doing. He humbled himself in order to pay off what we owe to standard and love us.

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”. John 3:16
Do you realize that when you hold your rights more importantly than your love, you are not doing God’s work, yet you are doing the work of evil.
The evil hold us wrong in place; in captivity. But Jesus does it so differently, he frees us of any wrong doing by his love. Amazing way isn’t?

Jesus had all rights and power to stay mad and angry at us for our wrong doing. But with his love he freed us in order for us to become more like him (righteous as he is)
Instead of holding up standard vs love, how about holding a righteous love that is stronger than any wrong doing of a person needs. Love one another and hold your relationship up more importantly than any wrong doing of your partners.

Love Vs. Standard?! Choose carefully, becuase the one you choose could have a long affect on your relationship. The question insn't how many times you were right in a conflict with your spouse or your partner? It is, How many times you loved them when they were wrong?

Montreal 2009

Sunday School Conference

Couples: Swim Against the Current

Let me start by asking you, do you have the power in your hand? Or you allow the negative trend take control of your life?
Do you have the energy and courage to stand strong and turn the wheel back in the right way?

See, sometimes we face one wrong thing after the other in our marriage and relationships. It may feel like a negative charge that pulling you in it. It feels like a spinning water that is sucking all of the goodness out of your Love life or friendship. The tricky part is sometimes we tend to ignore the first attack and the second. And by the time we realize it, it kinda late to do any thing. But the worse part that we tend to negatively contribute to the problem.

It may feels so overwhelming that you just want to close all your senses to avoid the pain and the headache the accompany it. Truth to be said, that your joy with the your relationships will slowly dissipate.
The easy way is to react every anger with anger, every misspoken word with another. It is easy to defend ourselves against attacks. But that is exactly what is "spinning water" does. It gains energy from within. It drawn you and your relationship below surface. Don't allow yourselves to be part a spinning water and drawn yourselves.

But let me tell you, it is too never late. It is better to try to stop the negative spin from taking control of your relationship, than you start watching it sucking you and your marriage. Stretch your arms to God who gave you the courage to stop this negative attacks and attack it back with every Good and Love that Holy Spirit puts in us.

God did not give us the spirit of failure. Do not be like a dead fish that swims with the current, but be a healthy in charge and swim against the current and make your victory known in Christ.
Remember God promise to us "For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." 2 Timothy 1:7

Let me encourage you and say that "No Fear of Failure is the ability to take a risk and keep the focus and attention on our call and obedience, you can do every thing through him". So don't spin with the current, spin out of it. God has give us the power to turn our life the other way and make it the way he intend to be. Joyful, and content. Take today a positive step and turn back the other cheek and love one another as the Lord command us. Do it first and don't ask something in return.