Couples: Break Free of False Self.

Last weekend the youth in our church got together with another 100 more from around the USA. We came together to talk seriously about how to break free. The topic was amazing, it was about breaking free from our false self in order to claim our true self which God planed for us.

He went on defining the two, false self is what the society, environment, family tend to make of us or mold us to be, and true self is what God ultimately planned for us want to mold us to be.

Dr. Awasm talked about a great thing that we should all do as couples. When conflict happens between any couple, there is a need for attention. We need to pay attention in order to find out what is the need of our spouse. When someone seems angry our mad of the other there is two responsibilities we need to take care of:

First:the person who did wrong needs not to be so taken by how much the other person is angry or mad, as much as paying attention to respond to the need of restoring the hurt feelings.

Second: The person who is hurt, needs to pay attention to the person who hurt him/her to find out why he or she did that? Was there any reasons for what he or she did?

He encouraged us to always have those secret conversions with our selves to examine ourselves before we run to claim we are right and the others are wrong.

It is definitely a call of being selfless. A call to two people to become more like one. A marriage that seeks the happiness of the other before self and gives the benefit of the doubt to others before making a judgement.

My lesson is not to rush quickly and claim that I am hurt from something, and listen and question my self and circumstance first.