Couples: FireProof, Never Leave your Partner Behind

Caleb: Did I offend you by walking in the doors….
Catharine: I am so tired; I am working, taking care of the house and watching over my parents
Caleb: it was your decision to work,I am tired too
Catharine: all you care about is working out and your boat

Caleb: why I can’t get some respect around here
Catharine: I want out
Caleb: if you want out, that is FINE by me

Caleb: Hi dad, Catharine and I are done
Dad: is there anything in you that make you to save your marriage
Caleb: if Catharine want to.

Dad: Listen son, I have a gift for you, which will require you to do forty days
Caleb: Dad, I can’t do this any more

Dad: you just doing enough to go by, aren’t you? You not a quiter.
Dad: you don’t value something, until you really invest in it.

Book: (day four) do something to expresses your love, not just words

Caleb: I don’t feel any thing
Dad: This love dare isn’t based on feeling

Caleb: friend: what is for today? 5
Caleb: study her
Studying her, trying to know what her likes and hates, understand her, and listen
Caleb friend: make it memorable date, fixes dinner with candel light

Catharine: rejects dinner

Caleb, Dad: I don’t feel any thing
Dad: you can’t listen to what you feel at the moment
Check your real motive what hard times come

Caleb: I am trying to please her, but I can’t do it by myself
Dad: I was there too, when I relized who I was and who he was, I needed him too
Caleb: I am good person
Dad: by your standard, have you loved god who gave you life?
Caleb /Dad: she is so stubborn

Dad: did she thank you for the past 20 days? Caleb: NO
Caleb: How I suppose to love someone who continues on rejecting me? Dad: GOOD Question?
Caleb: that isn’t what I am doing?
Dad: you can’t love her because you can’t give her what you don’t have.
Dad: I made the decision to love your mother either she deserve it or not
Dad: can’t you see that you need him? His forgiveness
Dad: would you trust him?
Caleb: YES

WAFFLE TIME

Caleb / friend: your faith, I am all in

Friend: god made marriage for live, you got to pray, don’t just follow your heart, you got to LEAD your heart

Caleb rescues a girl from a house fire and goes to the hospital
Catharine: you look terrible, Caleb: I feel terrible, Nurse: you got a hero on your hand!!

Caleb / dad: it seems like I am a hero to everyone in the world expect my wife! what is this so hard?

Day 24: watch out for addiction

Caleb: get rid of the computer and leaves a note for Catharine “I love You”
Catharine: leaves him the divorce papers to sign

Caleb / DR.: I made some mistakes, but I love her

Catharine: it is hard to second guess your self
Catharine friend: choose your choices carefully
Catharine: my husband had his chance

Song:
I am waiting, waiting o’lord, I will move forward, bold and confident,I am peaceful
It isn’t easy, but I am faithful waiting
I will take every step I obedience

Caleb/ Catharine: are you okay? Catharine: I am fine, don’t worry
Caleb: you got a fever
Catharine: why are you doing this?
Caleb: I learned to not leave my partner especially when there is fire
Catharine /Caleb: what day are you on?
Caleb: 43
Catharine: surprised, it is only 40 days
Caleb: who said, I should stop?
Caleb: I didn’t understand what love is
Catharine: I don’t trust you yet, I need some time
Caleb: take all the time you need
Caleb: I loved other things, where I should loved you. I need you to understand something, I am sorry

Catharine finds out that Caleb paid for her mom’s medical equipment
Catharine: looking for the ring… where is it?

Friend/ caleb: Catharine is in the bay.
Caleb: my Catharine?

Catharine: have I told you before hat you are a good man? Because I you are, and I FORGIVEN YOU.
Catharine: I want what happened to you to happen to me, is it too late?
Caleb: No

Caleb / Dad: dad, I am glad you didn’t give up on me or MOM.
Dad: the truth, I wanted out, but your mom is the one who did the love dare on me.
Caleb: mom did this?
Mom, I am sorry.

Catharine and Caleb smile and renew their vows

Couples: Questing Oneness in Marriage?

Oneness, I didn't think of this term before.  I didn't think of it so much during dating. But, soon after few month I got to examine myself my life think of this term much more.


So, I went and I looked up the Internet to find a definition of the word Oneness and here what I came up with Henosis (Greek ἕνωσις - unity without parts.) Amazing words when I think of it.
Mike Mason writes " Oneness is the freedom to speak one's mind to the other about absolutely anything. Oneness is being as comfortable with silence as with speech. Oneness is perfect trust. It's acting the same way apart from one's spouse as with him or her. It's anticipating the other's needs, and feeling the other's hurts as one's own. Oneness is habitually setting aside all differences for the simple joy of living in peace."

It took me all by surprise, I NO LONGER should ignore this term.  It is like once I become one with my wife, I NO LONGER can or able to seek my own way, because I am united in one with her.

Each couple needs to strive to that one goal of Oneness. It isn't by any mean removing any of one characters, on the other hand it is more like polishing it or completing it with my spouse characters. Think of it as a great piece of art that is missing part of it and in order to be complete, we need to add something to it.
It isn't easy and SHOULD NOT considered easy. In order to fit one part in a another, we need to do some work, like making room for that part.

Many times we try to establish oneness on our own,, and I am not saying that is wrong, but what I want to say is that oneness will become stronger and maybe easier as we come closer to God, He is the one who started our relationship in marriage and without him, we can't make it happen.

At friest I thought Oneness is for each spouse to think the same, like the same things and be able to read each other minds. To be honest. However the real meaning of oneness is to be able to complete one another. It is when I am weak, she is strong. It is when I am upset, she is gentle. It is when she is worry, I am her comfort. When she is afraid, I am here protection. See the true Oneness is in our differences not in our similarity's. Read my post about: Balancing Couples.(2 Corinthians 12:9). for God's "power is made perfect in weakness". Marriage makes couple stronger by making them more vulnerable to one another. As need arises, the fulfilment is provided in your spouse.
read my post on Polite Relationship Questioned.

Understand the Oneness isn't based on a feeling.  Matt. 19:6 “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” We need to become one, that is God's command to us. But, we got to work on it every day and all time. Read my post Falling in Love vs Making Love.
We need to learn that in order to work on our oneness, I need to invest time praying together and also pray alone for your spouse. Read Couple: Pray for your Partner
There is no way for you to become one without talking to one another. Read Share Three Things Daily.  Know it is hard to let go of ourselves and think only of our spouse but always Think Potential of your partner. Know Oneness is like a tree, the more you take good care of it, the more it gets bigger and cover you with its shads.
Never give up on trying the hard things, Oneness isn't' easy. However, it is differently worth trying. So learn that Hard Things are worth trying and most appreciated.
 Remember to make your spouse a priority in your life and you will be in your way to Oneness.

Shabab Fund Raising

We are planning our year shabab conference, and we needed to raise money to cover all the costs. So the shabab came together to make Koshari (that is an Egyptian meal for you who don't know) to feed the whole church and ask for donations. It was so much fun to see how we all work together for one goal and the blessing of being one team. God blessed our time and blessed us with great donations.

It tought me so much about our church and how people are really feel passioned about every ministry and whenever we ask for help they want to help. I also realized the importance of having working committed youth in the church and see how a church without any youth is considered dying church. Thanks every one getting together to make it happens.

The Blessings of Change

I have been following other blogs on the web lately. I recently found myself interested in what people have to say, I started to find joy and amusement of what people got to write about themselves. I guess reading people thoughts and writing gives me small side view of their lives, but importantly, it gives me a snap shots of who they are from the inside.
I recently came across this blog and read her post about change and made me wonder how our life goes by so fast and we don't stop to notice it.

I used to view change as most of us view it, uncomfortable, and such inconvenience. The reasons behind my thinking was that I had my own plans for my life and never thought of my creator plan for me. That post made me look back at my life and all of its seasons. How often it changes and how often it is pretty even in every season. But it was hard to see how pretty it is, because while I may living is one season, was dreaming of a different season which was the source behind an unease I felt but never noticed that I also made.
I guess, I had a misunderstanding of what my creator thought to plan for me. I thought comfort and he thought peace. I thought happiness and He thought Joy. I thought money and He thought contentment.

Now, I regret those moments, that I thought to seek what I want and not seek His desires of me. I regret wasting those times of my life, instead I could have been enjoying those moments of joy that my creator brought to my season no matter what season it is. I am learning to live the moment to its fullest no matter what season I am in, because the change isn't in my hand but it is in my creator's. Therefore, there is no more fears of the moment I am in, there is an open chest of what joy each moment may brings even the unexpected ones.

PanCake any one?

Cooking together become one of our fun hobbies to do together. On the weekend I wanted pancakes, but we didn't have it in a box. So we decided to make it. It came out so god and we enjoyed each other making it.

Dinner at Jimmy's

Another Friday night dinner plans, Jimmy and his parents generously invited all the shabab over their house and made it such great dinner. We loved the food and the company was amazing. So many laughs.

Spring in NE

Spring is here, we are enjoying it so much. Every where we go, trees and flowers are blooming and it brings joy to our heart. God is amazing is His wonderful work.