Couples: Questing Oneness in Marriage?

Oneness, I didn't think of this term before.  I didn't think of it so much during dating. But, soon after few month I got to examine myself my life think of this term much more.


So, I went and I looked up the Internet to find a definition of the word Oneness and here what I came up with Henosis (Greek ἕνωσις - unity without parts.) Amazing words when I think of it.
Mike Mason writes " Oneness is the freedom to speak one's mind to the other about absolutely anything. Oneness is being as comfortable with silence as with speech. Oneness is perfect trust. It's acting the same way apart from one's spouse as with him or her. It's anticipating the other's needs, and feeling the other's hurts as one's own. Oneness is habitually setting aside all differences for the simple joy of living in peace."

It took me all by surprise, I NO LONGER should ignore this term.  It is like once I become one with my wife, I NO LONGER can or able to seek my own way, because I am united in one with her.

Each couple needs to strive to that one goal of Oneness. It isn't by any mean removing any of one characters, on the other hand it is more like polishing it or completing it with my spouse characters. Think of it as a great piece of art that is missing part of it and in order to be complete, we need to add something to it.
It isn't easy and SHOULD NOT considered easy. In order to fit one part in a another, we need to do some work, like making room for that part.

Many times we try to establish oneness on our own,, and I am not saying that is wrong, but what I want to say is that oneness will become stronger and maybe easier as we come closer to God, He is the one who started our relationship in marriage and without him, we can't make it happen.

At friest I thought Oneness is for each spouse to think the same, like the same things and be able to read each other minds. To be honest. However the real meaning of oneness is to be able to complete one another. It is when I am weak, she is strong. It is when I am upset, she is gentle. It is when she is worry, I am her comfort. When she is afraid, I am here protection. See the true Oneness is in our differences not in our similarity's. Read my post about: Balancing Couples.(2 Corinthians 12:9). for God's "power is made perfect in weakness". Marriage makes couple stronger by making them more vulnerable to one another. As need arises, the fulfilment is provided in your spouse.
read my post on Polite Relationship Questioned.

Understand the Oneness isn't based on a feeling.  Matt. 19:6 “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” We need to become one, that is God's command to us. But, we got to work on it every day and all time. Read my post Falling in Love vs Making Love.
We need to learn that in order to work on our oneness, I need to invest time praying together and also pray alone for your spouse. Read Couple: Pray for your Partner
There is no way for you to become one without talking to one another. Read Share Three Things Daily.  Know it is hard to let go of ourselves and think only of our spouse but always Think Potential of your partner. Know Oneness is like a tree, the more you take good care of it, the more it gets bigger and cover you with its shads.
Never give up on trying the hard things, Oneness isn't' easy. However, it is differently worth trying. So learn that Hard Things are worth trying and most appreciated.
 Remember to make your spouse a priority in your life and you will be in your way to Oneness.