Couples: Make Love vs. Fall in Love

I didn't know how to word my title this time around, but I thought it may bring your attention and make you read til the end.

Our society teaches us about how to fall in love and how great it is. It commercializes the passion and the emotions that love brings to our lives. We grow up watching, learning and fantasizing about the day we fall in love and live above the clouds.

I am not here to declare war over the emotions of love and how up lifting it is, but I want to explain that real love is not all about the emotions and living above the clouds.

Let me give you an example, The Christan love isn't words of hope only, when Jesus promises for example to love us and protect us, He isn't just giving us words of hope, love and emotions of security. No, His words are tangible love the goes beyond the words and the emotions. Real love is what keep couple together when the emotions fades away. Maybe I shouldn't say fades away, I should have said, Love is behaviors that we take after the heat of the emotions cools down.

So, I am encouraging every one: after falling in love, is to start making love to your partner. I am not only encouraging you, but challenging you to develop those behaviors that shows/express and make love. Try to make it a habit to make love and express it in away that your partner recognize it.

Here is what I mean, find every thing you know about your partner that make him/ her feel loved and start taking a daily tasks to express it to him or her. Start expressing/making love to your partner on daily basis. Don't let your love stops at the emotion limits, instead take it beyond that commercialized boundaries and stand strong for the reality of love that support, protect, encourage and love without seizing.

Remember I Cor 13.4-8a ... Love does not seek its own.