In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves…self-discipline with all of them came first.We always concern about who won over who. We want others including our spouses to change, but we hardly get concerned when it comes to a flight with ourselves in order to change our bad habits.
How many times did you wrestle with yourselves in order to change one bad habit?
Are you blaming the lack of motivation, because you do have it?! You want to be happier in your relationship with your spouse, Don't you?
Did you consider changing a habit as an expression of love to your spouse?
Are you complaining about how hard it is? Well, it should be hard. Good things aren't easy.
Or are you just saying, my spouse should accept me as I am. Well if you think so, then you need to reconsider your understanding of marriage. Marriage isn't about you, Marriage is about the other person.
We all think that we will live happy life, expecting that our spouse won't find any thing wrong with us. But we fail to think, is my spouse happy with me. Or we just concern with our own happiness. Remember some thing very important happened that you got married, is the day you died in order to let the marriage grow.
Now, lets take few serious steps to consider our spouse happiness:
- Write a list of things, you know that need to get ride of.
- Plan on working on getting ride of one habit at a time.
- Inform your spouse about your plan, and ask for his or her encouragements
If you fail a few times, quickly express sorrow and start all over.
With this process, you will have a plan to work with, and at the same time you will have your spouse in mind, understanding and appreciation. Remember, if you want to win a fight, there is more important fight to win more than the one against ourselves.
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