Couples: Do not what is your duty!

Jesus called us to do what is his love but what is not our duty...

Did you ever wonder why Jesus didn't say 'Love Your Neighbour'? But he said, "Love your enemies"

"But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you" - Jesus of Nazareth, as recorded in Matthew 5:44 (NIV translation)

I tell you why, because it is so easy to love the ones who love us and care for us.

Our society tough us never turn the other cheek, never ignore the pain or hurt of other, neither taught us to love who hurt us.

This past Sunday, during the Sunday school class I teach, Caren (Sunday school teacher) spoke about how we are called to do not due what is our duty. If someone ask you to walk a mile, walk two. If some one asks for your cloth, give them every thing. If someone hurt us, we are called to love them, not to hurt them back....

Those words touched my heart,,, what about our spouses, don't we suppose to love them, care for them, protect them... How come we end up doing what is our duty and not listen to what God told us.

Many times we get caught in the moment and never think of the painful moment as an opportunity to express love and show love. Jesus did that. He thought of that, he asked us to do so. Express love when least expected, so that we be following his foot steps.

Right after I finished Sunday school, I went to listen our our Pastor sermon. He also was talking about love.

Here what he was talking about
"Though I speak with the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I have become as sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing." (1 Corinthians 13:1)

Many times we do things to our spouses out of duty and not our of caring and love. We marry them, we cook for them, we clean for them, we drive them, we provide for them. But all our of duty, not our of love. The verse we just read is so powerful. It talks about how all our work is done in vein if we don't do it out of love.

Many of us do all that work and wait for appreciation, or wait to be served back. Many feel so over whelmed. All because we do things out of duty and not our love.

When conflict come, we tend to stand up right and hold the other person wrong and never show love. Many times our standard is much more important than love. We forget that Loving them is more important. We tend to leave them, ignore them when they are sick. Avoid confrontation or even conversion when it most needed. We forget that A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

Here is the advise that I need and will pass on to you as well. I read this in a book I am currently reading. It is called The Practice of the Presence of God. He says, "be governed by love without selfish views, make the love of God the end of all your action" Very tough one...

What a powerful words... my actions are a expressions of God's love and I got to make the best of it... It should be easy when it is toward our spouses or partners, but we fail many times. Yet, we got to try. Remember, Love is much greater power than standard and rules. Do what is not your duty.